Introduction
Good day! So today I went shopping with my lovely, newly engaged cousin to try on bridesmaid dresses! It was such a fun experience but left us torn between two dresses. Personally, I’m just ecstatic that I didn’t get stuck in any, rip any, or fart while wearing any of them. I always make fun of those girls on wedding shows who cry but I teared up when I saw my cousin in her wedding dress. She’s going to make a beauty of a bride and I’m so honoured to be the one standing next to her. =)
Out-dated Update
In honour of my cousin Alyssa becoming engaged and allowing my awkward, weird self not only attend her wedding but be a part of it, today’s out-dated update is: Weird Thing My Cousin and I Used To Do.
As children, Alyssa and I would display weird behaviours. Now, I wasn't the most social of children and I was and still am a little weird (at least I KNOW I am weird and I can admit it). Anyway, my cousin Alyssa (who is one year younger then I am) was/is probably just as strange so it’s no wonder we did odd things as children together.
Club - So, we had a club. This club consisted of the following people: Me, Alyssa. That’s it. So I forget the name of this club but we had journals that were kept at my house and when Alyssa would visit (which would be about 1-2 times a week) we would write in these journals. We would write about our current crushes and what we wanted to do with them (pictures included). We were not shy to let each other know what was on our minds and our journal entries were sometimes quite graphic (keep in mind we were also like 10 and perverted).
Book Readings - as part of our club we would have weekly book readings. This would consist of sneaking into my Mom's room, retrieving her romance novels and reading them in my room while we laughed at the naughty parts.
Cussing - we would hang out at the park across the street from my house and make up excuses to say swear words because we thought we were cool. So we would go high up on the playground, drop our sunglasses or whatever off the top and say bad words.
Slide- we invented a game called "funny ways of going down the slide." The name pretty much speaks for itself. We would create cool ways to slide down a slide and name them, a terrific past-time that entertained us for hours.
Bathtub Routines - we loved to take baths together (I will not disclose how old we were when we stopped). So whenever Alyssa would come over, we would take a bath together and make up dance/singing routines to show our Dads. (we wore towels when we presented them).
Club - So, we had a club. This club consisted of the following people: Me, Alyssa. That’s it. So I forget the name of this club but we had journals that were kept at my house and when Alyssa would visit (which would be about 1-2 times a week) we would write in these journals. We would write about our current crushes and what we wanted to do with them (pictures included). We were not shy to let each other know what was on our minds and our journal entries were sometimes quite graphic (keep in mind we were also like 10 and perverted).
Book Readings - as part of our club we would have weekly book readings. This would consist of sneaking into my Mom's room, retrieving her romance novels and reading them in my room while we laughed at the naughty parts.
Cussing - we would hang out at the park across the street from my house and make up excuses to say swear words because we thought we were cool. So we would go high up on the playground, drop our sunglasses or whatever off the top and say bad words.
Slide- we invented a game called "funny ways of going down the slide." The name pretty much speaks for itself. We would create cool ways to slide down a slide and name them, a terrific past-time that entertained us for hours.
Bathtub Routines - we loved to take baths together (I will not disclose how old we were when we stopped). So whenever Alyssa would come over, we would take a bath together and make up dance/singing routines to show our Dads. (we wore towels when we presented them).
Song-Writing – we would have weekend sleepovers at Alyssa’s house and listen to songs but change the words to make them about people we know. We’d do this for hours.
Gum – one time Alyssa ate gum off the sidewalk at my house and threw up.
Kegger – one time when we were in high school, I brought Alyssa to a kegger I was attending. We both ended up getting wasted. She threw up on my friend’s car and started crying. My parents obviously knew we were drunk and were pissed, which then upset me and I started throwing up and crying.
There are many, many more where this came from, but for the sake of getting a “WTF really?” reaction I will stop here.
Topic of the Day
The topic of the day today is Self-Talk.
Self-talk can be extremely encouraging or it can be diminishing. Nobody but you can talk you into or out of something. That voice inside your head, whether it be negative or positive is the number one influence in your life. I cannot even express the importance of self-talk in my life and how much it dominates. Self-talk has both helped me through very tough times and sometimes has made situations worse. I think we all have two voices inside our head, the confident one that says yes we can (superego) and the one that holds us back (id).
When I am in nerve-racking situations, I talk to myself (not out loud, well sometimes) and it helps immensely. I tell myself to keep my cool, what’s the worst that can happen, and I remind myself that being nervous is a good feeling and means that I am doing something of worth. I try to remember one of Olivia Joules Rules for Living from the book “Olivia Joules and the Overactive Imagination.” The rule I try to remember is “nothing is either as good or as bad as it seems.” Self-talk is a wonderful distraction from nerves. For example, I had a job interview for a marketing position while ago (SIDE NOTE: they decided not to hire anybody. Great.) and naturally, I was a little nervous. On the way there, I found an upbeat song on the radio and sang out loud. I acted just like I would if I were on my way to anywhere else. All the while I was telling myself "there is no reason to be overly nervous, you should be more excited that you were blessed with the opportunity to be interviewed, you are a genuine person and your answers will come naturally." This self-talk put me at ease and allowed me to be able to act nonchalant and seem rather confident. I rocked the interview.
I'm one of the many in the world that used to and still do occasionally suffer from panic attacks, even if nothing in particular brings them on. In these times, self-talk is crucial. Tell yourself, "I'm just having a panic attack. I've had them before and I've been fine 5 minutes later so I will be fine in a moment. Lots of people have panic attacks, it doesn't make me weird." Telling yourself that what's happening is not a big deal really helps you shake off the negativity and move on. There is a movie called “Charlie Bartlett” and it is about a guy in high school who is natural at helping people with their problems. He helps one of his buddies who suffered from panic attacks by telling him, “No one has ever died from a panic attack. Just tell yourself: in fifteen minutes I’ll probably be ok.”
Now, not all self-talk is positive. Sometimes we think negative thoughts on purpose and sometimes we can't help but think them. Negative self-talk is detrimental to our personal growth and can easily be stopped with positive thoughts, but it is easier said than done. If you find you are telling yourself things like "I can't do this" or "what is the point of this?" hopefully you are aware enough of what you are doing to reverse it and consciously replace negative thoughts with positive ones. There is no point in being negative toward yourself; people will not feel sorry for you and feeling sorry for yourself gets you nowhere!
Self-talk can be extremely encouraging or it can be diminishing. Nobody but you can talk you into or out of something. That voice inside your head, whether it be negative or positive is the number one influence in your life. I cannot even express the importance of self-talk in my life and how much it dominates. Self-talk has both helped me through very tough times and sometimes has made situations worse. I think we all have two voices inside our head, the confident one that says yes we can (superego) and the one that holds us back (id).
When I am in nerve-racking situations, I talk to myself (not out loud, well sometimes) and it helps immensely. I tell myself to keep my cool, what’s the worst that can happen, and I remind myself that being nervous is a good feeling and means that I am doing something of worth. I try to remember one of Olivia Joules Rules for Living from the book “Olivia Joules and the Overactive Imagination.” The rule I try to remember is “nothing is either as good or as bad as it seems.” Self-talk is a wonderful distraction from nerves. For example, I had a job interview for a marketing position while ago (SIDE NOTE: they decided not to hire anybody. Great.) and naturally, I was a little nervous. On the way there, I found an upbeat song on the radio and sang out loud. I acted just like I would if I were on my way to anywhere else. All the while I was telling myself "there is no reason to be overly nervous, you should be more excited that you were blessed with the opportunity to be interviewed, you are a genuine person and your answers will come naturally." This self-talk put me at ease and allowed me to be able to act nonchalant and seem rather confident. I rocked the interview.
I'm one of the many in the world that used to and still do occasionally suffer from panic attacks, even if nothing in particular brings them on. In these times, self-talk is crucial. Tell yourself, "I'm just having a panic attack. I've had them before and I've been fine 5 minutes later so I will be fine in a moment. Lots of people have panic attacks, it doesn't make me weird." Telling yourself that what's happening is not a big deal really helps you shake off the negativity and move on. There is a movie called “Charlie Bartlett” and it is about a guy in high school who is natural at helping people with their problems. He helps one of his buddies who suffered from panic attacks by telling him, “No one has ever died from a panic attack. Just tell yourself: in fifteen minutes I’ll probably be ok.”
Now, not all self-talk is positive. Sometimes we think negative thoughts on purpose and sometimes we can't help but think them. Negative self-talk is detrimental to our personal growth and can easily be stopped with positive thoughts, but it is easier said than done. If you find you are telling yourself things like "I can't do this" or "what is the point of this?" hopefully you are aware enough of what you are doing to reverse it and consciously replace negative thoughts with positive ones. There is no point in being negative toward yourself; people will not feel sorry for you and feeling sorry for yourself gets you nowhere!
You hopefully would never say negative things to a friend, so why would you say negative things about yourself? If there is something you don’t like about yourself, work towards a positive change instead of putting yourself down.
By-eee
Welp, see ya later! Thank you again for reading! Enjoy the picture of the day!
Love, Chelsea oxxx
This is a picture of me sharing a passionate moment with a goat. I have a picture frame with the words "You and I" on it and I've recently replaced a picture of me and my ex-boyfriend who I refer to as Lord Voldemort with this photo. It really brightened up my room.
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